I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for almost 4 years now, we were okay. Though he was in school when we met, he graduated and we were still together. We occasionally had issues but we resolved them almost immediately. When he graduated he traveled to Lagos from port Harcourt where we both base. We had a fight, it was about his ex girlfriend. He told me he was going go fix things and we will be fine. After a month and about 2 weeks he came back to port Harcourt, we were even closer than ever, he even made our relationship public and we were making plans for our future together. 3 weeks after his birthday which was in march this year he started acting up, I made excuses for him and kept trying to get things back together until one day in April I felt I had the right to know what was going on so I went to his place and started talking to him. He never wanted to open up anything to me, he only apologized and used work as his reason for his recent actions but I knew it was not true so I continued to ask him for the truth, he tried playing with my mind so I could let the issue go but I refused. Finally he told me a Lady was 7 months pregnant for him and she did not tell him until 3 weeks after his birthday when he started acting up. I didn’t know if I should laugh or cry, my head was in a mess and my mind was blank. I asked him for the way forward and he said he was so confused. When I got to the junction he left, my legs could not carry me anymore so I sat on the ground and started crying. I had to call on one of my friends who was a doctor, when I told him everything he immediately came over and took me to my house. Somehow I was able to survive that night, the next day everything got worse I kept crying. I called him and asked him what we should do about the whole mess. He said he loved me but he made a mistake when he traveled to Lagos and used the quarrel we had as an excuse for what he did and he started giving me attitude which became a reason for my love for him to go cold, after a while about 3 weeks or so he wanted us to have sex, he said we were adults and should be able to handle little stress like what happened. Funny enough he cut off every relationship with his ex and got a girl he only just met there at Lagos. Right now I don’t hate him but somehow I’m not taking all the guys asking to marry me seriously, It’s just so difficult for me to bring myself to love again please I need help.