These are stories from people that have lost someone, have dealt with grief or are dealing with grief.
The truth is that there’s no manual for dealing with grief. You just have to stick in there and keep reminding yourself anytime you feel that emptiness that the pain will reduce.
It is a wound to your heart. Just like any other wound to the body, at first the pain will be unbearable, but as time goes by the pain will reduce.
We hope you feel better as you read some of these real stories.
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Anonymous
Loosing a dear one is the most difficult experience, I have never seen a dead person before and the first one I saw was a man I spent 17 years of my life with, I fought with my head, I refused to accept the fact that he was truly dead, I waited for his calls, his messages, waiting to hear the kids scream daddy welcome, gradually I went into a depressed state, nothing was making sense to me, all I wanted was to wake up from the dream. I cried when they show the series we watched together, when I hear his favourite song, when my last baby ask where is daddy and when is he coming back. It’s 6 months now but I still tell myself he will walk in soon. I still cry and cry and cry. i just can’t stop thinking about him and all the good times we shared. Not as easy as people think, the more I try to move on, the more the feelings get strong.
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I made myself aware of the fact that I was hurt and moved forward with the positive memories (as against ‘moving on’). I don’t try to forget about the loss nor try to lie to myself that I wasn’t hurt. Positive memories (especially ones I had with him, my dad) come as weapons I use to neutralize any instance of grief from the loss. I understand that we all die anyway, but we live on memories. So I have learnt to always cherish positivity more, so they’d neutralize any consequent grief or pain from any future losses or disappointments
Anonymous
Loosing a loved one is very painful. Death is part of life. That feeling of not seeing, communicating or reaching out to them again leaves you wondering and asking so many questions. It hurts so much. But if crying out to ease one’s pain, one is allowed to do so. With time you will find out that pains will be less on you. Also remembering the good memories of that person will forever live in your heart.
Anonymous
I’m going through dealing with grief now, lost someone really close and I still don’t know how to come to terms with it, I cry randomly, laugh this minute and I’m sad the next, Will this feeling ever be better?
Anonymous
It’s hard to talk about it. There’s fear of the unknown. Of what would happen if you dwell too long in that phase. Thinking about it trying to wrap your head around it or even coming to terms with it that you’d never see them again especially when they left just too soon. We just tend to pretend that nothing happened so life can go on. One day we’d get the strength to face and address our grief
Anonymous
It is so hard
Anonymous
I lost my dad 7 years ago but I still get teary when I think about him. Around the anniversary of his death, i find myself feeling really down and this has happened ever since he died. i don’t think the pain ever goes away. It gets better but it never goes away. The best way to deal with it is to think of the good times you had with them and hold on to those memories forever!
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I have experienced my fair share of pain. Loosing someone so dear to me, it has really reshaped me into a different lady. I constantly kept living in denial cause that was the best way to me at the time, that I could deal with the death or get over it. I really didn’t know I was causing more harm to myself. I failed it all in thinking I dealt with it. Everyone called me strong cause I was never the type to show my emotions and I was good at it. No one ever asked me how I felt, or how I was coping with everything going on around me. Years later, I find myself breaking down at every point. And I just had to let myself know that I lost someone really close to me that I couldn’t even imagine. And it was really okay to cry and feel all the pain that I felt, it was okay to let it go and hold on to the good memories I had of the person. The good times we shared together. Trust me its really hard for me even after 11 years, I still struggle to talk about him. But I think I am much more in a better place than I was last year, at least I try in my alone time to recall some past events that put a smile on my face. And my only assurance as disappointing as his death was is that he’s in a much better place
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I couldn’t grief properly when I lost my husband 4 months after we got married…everyone kept telling me I needed to be strong because I was 3 months pregnant!!! Oh! I could only stare and take depp, long breaths… I wanted to touch his body before his body was lowered, oh I wanted to rub my hands through his chubby cheeks but I wasn’t allowed, echoes of, “you need to protect this pregnancy”, “draw strength from within, this baby will be your consolation…” enveloped my ears. Damn!!! It’s been 6 years, 2 months and 14 days, time hasn’t heald the wound and time hasn’t cushioned the impact of the wound…