I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years now, but a year ago my started disturbing me to get pregnant and stuff… meanwhile I’m a undergraduate of Ekiti State University and in my third year actually. Last year I got pregnant and had an abortion without telling him. This made me so depressed and sad, even till now. Now I’m pregnant again but I don’t think I can go through with the abortion.
I don’t even know how to tell my parents…
Please what should I do?
Anonymous
Good morning please don’t be down this case is not new its being happening,try and see a doctor who can tell you your best options and also let your parents know because they will still know as pregnancy does not hide
Anonymous
My dear I am so sorry for your pain. I know how much being forced to chose an abortion can hurt, and how that pain stays with you for years. I understand that you cannot face the same choice a second time. I think this may be the time for you to have a very honest conversation with your boyfriend. You obviously want to finish your studies and build a career and he should support you in this. If he cannot support you, or is unwilling to do so, you should not have to sacrifice your future. I am in a different country and a different culture, so I don’t know how much you can rely on your family, but if these are not options for you maybe you want to consider adoption. In many countries children can be adopted and the biological mother can choose the adoptive parents and continue to be in contact with them and the child. I don’t know if this is something you can even consider, both because of how painful that idea would be and because I don’t know what you have access to, but I understand your pain and you are not alone. I wish you all the best and hope this unwished for pregnancy will end up being something to make you very happy!