Hi, I am 26years old. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 10years and 2 months.He is already talking about marriage with me but I feel I need more time. Time I mean, he doesn’t show enough care like I wanted and I have been complaining this to him which I expect to see some changes at least.
All of the 10years of our relationship, we are mostly apart doing one or two things at different states of the country but we are still very much connected though.
Just yesterday,i realize my boyfriend had been chatting other girls up. He infact begged one of them to marry him (March,2021),he shares personal information with the lady on what I already gave my opinion about (getting his place and the furniture). He discussed ‘sex life’ he expects in marriage with the lady. I feel worse to read that the lady in question had seen me on his status before and asked him why he is still coming for her when I am with him. My bf had the nerve to tell her not to get herself worried on unnecessary things.This is someone I can literally lay my life for when discussing Trust. I trusted him so much and never expected this from him.
I saw another chat with a lady who they once worked together as a teacher, he was literally begging to have a video call with her as late as 11pm same day I left his place to see my sister.
I fear to marry him cos my trust in him is shattered at the moment. Pls help me.
Anonymous
Please, if you don’t see the loyalty and cannot trust him, I would suggest you do not embark on a life time journey with him. He will never be loyal to you and would still treat you poorly especially in marriage, if he already has tendencies now.