I and my finance has been dating for 9years now, I have sacrificed alot for this relationship,I practically provide money and even sex just to make him happy.. I go around speaking to people to help him get a job, sometimes I borrow from friends and family for him, I don’t have any savings because there’s always a need from his side. We’re getting married in few months but i feel something is not right, I feel if i get married to him i will be the one providing for the family,I will be the one doing things he supposed to do and this scares me a lot.
Anonymous
Hi.i understand that feeling and I don’t think it is very bad if you pay the bill for a while except he is not doing his best to get a job or start a business.then you can get worried.
Anonymous
Identify his problems.
1. Be vigilant to see if he’s lazy. Because my sister is battling with a lazy husband, she provide everything including food and shelter. It’s a big problem if a man is lazy.
2. See if he’s lazy in prayer. That’s my own side of problem.. being lazy in prayer drag you back.
3. See if he’s
Anonymous
Identify his problems.
1. Be vigilant to see if he’s lazy. Because my sister is battling with a lazy husband, she provides everything including food and shelter. It’s a big problem if a man is lazy.
2. See if he’s lazy in prayer. That’s my own side of problem.. being lazy in prayer drag you back and delay progress.
3. See if he’s ready to to move. I mean see his reaction in terms of hustling and his responsiveness when it comes to work or hustle. If no. You have to rethink.
4. Lastly patiently see his reaction when you take responsibility, when you pay bill, see if he’s comfortable with it. If he sees no bad in it and also relax to see you doing his job. My sister there is a problem..
If all this is valid, dearie you gat to think. No pity in marriage.