Hi have been depressed for a very long time actually my guy is a military guy and was out of Lagos for 6months I cheated on him he came back and found out I was cheating and was really upset things got really heated up and I kept on apologizing I was really sorry because I loved him but he texted the guy I cheated with took some contacts on my phone and was asking questions the guy even lied I was the one who seduced him fast forward since April have been asking him to forgive me he said he has but he still go into details of when I cheated and bring up up most times I got tired but because I love him I had no choice to be patient for him to trust me again 2days ago was the worse day of my life he mistook a chat and started calling me names he insulted me to the extent I almost wanted to take my life at the end when I sent him the chats he was speechless because I was saying the truth he came apologizing for those things he said while insulting me he sent videos of when he was having sex with a girl I remember when he went to meet her that was the day he found out I was cheating didn’t know he would make videos with her because he felt I was lying about what he asked me 2days ago and he wasn’t even giving me the opportunity to express myself I didn’t say anything to him he sent the videos and voice notes of them moaning 🤦♀️I couldn’t take it I cried my eyes out he called me a dog and he body shamed me I wish I could post the chats after he said all those I sent the chats and he saw I wasn’t lying then yesterday he came apologizing I didn’t reply him he still blamed me for not sending the chats to him when he asked that he was angry that I was lying to him and I wanted to break up where as I was the one who cheated me that have been begging him we chatted today I couldn’t hold the fact that I still love him I replied him he said he was so sorry that he needs time off because he doesn’t want to loose me and he didn’t mean most of what he said to me I don’t know am really scared my friends hate me and will never forgive me if I go back to him but I still love him he doesn’t know how to handle matters when his angry he feels he would hurt u with anything I told him if he takes his break and his still loves me like he said he shouldn’t take time cause I forgive him pls what should I do I wish I could explain one on one to someone 😔💔
Anonymous
Hello Anon.
I’ll like to extend my empathy on the situation. Truth being told what has happened has happened, what is important now is how you move forward from this point.
Please take some time to think and if possible have a honest conversation with your partner, in truth you have both hurt each other intentional or unintentionally. Ask questions to understand the present state of the relationship and questions about the future.
The answers you get can help you gain some insights on the next line of action to take.
At TRUTHSHARE we have skilled relationship experts who can work with you to navigate this stressful situation. if you find yourself struggling further, please book a session with a professional to guide you through this time. Thank you.