Hello, my story is quite lengthy but i’ll try my best to shorten it.
I’m 23 years old and a student of a federal uni in Nigeria here and I gave birth to a handsome boy a month ago. I’m currently not with the father of my son and it has taken a huge toll on me.
So we started out our relationship fairly ok he was in love with me in the beginning but i wasn’t but started growing fond of him and about a month after we started dating, I fell pregnant. He was very excited and asked me to keep the baby cause he was writing his final exams then. He also said if i didn’t want to keep the baby he would respect my decision. I was scared to have an abortion, scared of what my family would say but I still decided to keep the baby cause i was beginning to have feelings for him. Fast forward, he asked that i come stay at his place which i did. Then he asked that i start cooking which I refused and told him we should both do the cooking thing ( worst mistake ever) this decision was influenced by the fact that I was in an abusive relationship before I met him and was cooking like my life depended on it. I should never had let my past relationship influence my decisions. I could remember he told me then to let him fall in love with my cooking skills. I forgot i was dealing with a typical Nigerian man.
I’m a very emotional person and I guess it doubled while my pregnancy was growing. I craved his attention a lot then but i didnt get it. We would constantly fight, argue and makeup. It got to a point in the relationship i was so lonely and would constantly cry myself to sleep cause i missed him then we broke up. I even involved his parents cause I didnt understand his behaviour but i failed to see that he was going through it himself. He lost a lot of money to forex and i couldn’t even see it. All i kept thinking about was myself alone. I’m not even that kind of person I don’t know what came over me. I was also verbally abusive and didnt see what I was doing to our relationship. He became more distant as my pregnancy was progressing and it fuelled my anger for him more. I had this male friend who became my companion and we would gist for hours then he would sleep over. One faithful night, my son’s father came to ch
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