I have been through a whole lot in this deception called marriage, U just cohabit with someone so that people address you as married but in the real sense of the word there is no union. Maybe am wrong in my perception of what marriage is. So I throw the big question what is marriage really?, For me I tot it as a way of running away from chasing women and sticking to one partner that is ready to respect and live for you, but am totally wrong. Another tot I have is that marriage is a place where you have a help meet, companion and friend bit once again am wrong. It is true that a man must wake up to his responsibility at some point in life and take care of people, the big question is what relationship should you have to stake all you have to take care of another’s need?, what is expected of the person in return. When you go all out to make the hardest 1k and still put your self secondary cos you don’t want these persons to pass through pain and yet they just see you as useless and unworthy of them, are you suppose to take the shame and pain of their ingratitude, or are you to hide under the disguise of they are motivating you to do more?. At what point in life will a man find happiness in this kind of situation. I think our present society have not helped most people as they are quick to judge actions without finding the source or thinking of it as a reaction to an external force. What on earth makes you think that a man well cherished and respected by his spouse would want to leave and have another woman all of a sudden?, who on earth would want to run away from comfort and care and create kiosk for himself? I think enduring pain in marriage is an ill in our society that most people needs to be helped out of.
Anonymous
It takes two to tango. It takes two to make a marriage work.
It’s a beautiful thing marriage. But just as every beautiful thing out there it has the ability to make one sad.
People always say when the marriage is now so bad that it affects you mentally its probably time to leave. However you first have to consider trying to make it work. No good thing simply comes easy.
Take it easy
Anonymous
Uncle Pele.
Because of the harsh economic situation, it is quite common to feel this way. However, communicate with your spouse how you feel and be clear on how hurt you feel by her ingratitude in a polite way.
Explain how you would like to be respected in your home and also clarify her expectations from you balancing it by telling her the efforts you put in to realize her desires. Talk about it, sometimes, take her along to see the work you do so she can appreciate your efforts too.
Marriage is a beautiful thing when the couple invests in their home. The Lord help you.