I’m in love with an ex, we started dating as teenagers and it lasted 5 years. I broke up with him because I couldn’t trust him, I had reasons not to. When we broke up I honestly expected him to resist but he all but went on with it. Although he said he did so because he thought I deserved better. We have been apart for almost 5 years now yet I can’t seem to get him off my mind. He talks to me when he wants to, other times he just ignores me. I have asked why he does that and he said it’s not intentional. There have been times I honestly thought I was over him and didn’t even think about him, but after a while, the longing for him starts again. It’s like a never ending cycle. The sad part is, I’m in a relationship, my partner knows I’m in love with another yet he says he loves me and I know he does. I feel very bad for him and wish I could feel something stronger for him. There are logical reasons why I should get over my ex and I’ve told myself numerous times yet it’s like my mind is coming up with reasons why my ex loves me too. We are in different countries too. I had an idea that if I see this ex then maybe I’d be able to move on. A bit of closure I think. But I don’t have the means to. It is all very confusing. Not being able to talk to anyone makes it even worse.
Anonymous
As great as it would be to erase an ex out of your memory once the relationship ends, unfortunately, that’s not possible. The love you once shared for your ex just doesn’t fade away overnight, and that’s something you have to be patient with yourself about.
Studies show that, when relationships end, people may deal with depression, PTSD, anxiety, and other mental health issues. So, it’s understandable that you may have a tough time healing.
“If you still love an ex, that is normal and OK. It just means that you are processing the many emotions that come with being in a relationship,” says Ernesto Lira de la Rosa, Psychologist, and Hope for Depression Research Foundation’s Media Advisor.
Of course, it may feel as though your entire world is over. Those strong feelings that are omnipresent now won’t last forever, and one day you’ll look back and hopefully be grateful for the change that the breakup brought about for you.
Anonymous
Thank you for taking out the time to drop a comment. Seeing this today has given me hope