I am married with a daughter, during our dating he cheated on me with his ex and it brought forth a baby girl that was born 3 days after my birthday, in the cause of that he cheated again with another random lady which he said was a mistake, when his ex was pregnant I was also pregnant but I had to let go of it due to the stress of emotions, he lied to me severally, he came back apologizing with his mother and sister who pleaded on his behalf that he would never make such mistakes again, I got insulted and bullied by the ex that had a child for him but still I forgave him and accepted to marry him cos I love him and my family does too and they don’t know about all his cheating sand the baby but now he’s a changed man…..my problem now is I see everything he tells me as lies still and still don’t trust him enough to believe he’s not cheating on me……this has been causing lots of fights and issues between us……I need help on what to do to forget the past and how to trust him again, he takes care of me and the daughter I have for him now and his ex is not a problem……I need help, how do I trust him again so as to treat him right cos he’s really trying his best
Anonymous
People don’t change. He would still cheat on you and be smart about it. You deserve better.
Anonymous
Rebuilding after infidelity can be difficult, but it is possible if both partners are willing to be committed to the process.
It is important to have an honest and open conversation with your partner about how his past actions have affected you; talk to him about what he needs to do to make you feel safe in the relationship.
You might want to also consider going for couples therapy or talking to a close friend or family member you can give you both impartial guidance.
Also note that forgiveness is a vital part of this process, be patient in your effort to rebuilding trust in your partner because it takes time and as long as your partner is committed to the process; you can learn to trust him again.