Hi! I started this relationship few years ago it was almost everything I wanted in a relationship. The issue here is my boyfriend is emotionally withdrawn, even when I try to get vulnerable and comfortable around him, he seems aloof. I can’t remember the last time my boyfriend expressed his feelings towards me, and I am beginning to feel like I’m pushing too much, I have told him how I feel, he always says this is how he his and that shouldn’t bother me. I don’t want to assume anything and need honest opinions on how to handle this. I have grown too attached to this guy.
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It seems like you’re in an unhappy situation because your boyfriend’s emotional detachment has caused you to feel emotionally distant from him. I understand that it can be challenging to change your partner’s emotional communication style, as you will need patience and empathy to do so. Try having an honest conversation with him and freely express how you have been feeling and also let him share why his opinion on the matter. He might have a reason for being this way; remember, people show emotions differently.
Also, avoid trying to mount pressure on him to change immediately. Try to understand his choices if he says that he struggles with communicating his feelings or is usually more reserved in nature. It’s important that you maintain a balance between your expectations and his comfort level. Seek professional help if the situation continues to be a cause of concern to you.
You may also want to consider whether the relationship is actually fulfilling for both of you if you constantly feel that your emotional needs are not being met and it’s making you unhappy.