; Please I need help am heartbroken… I married my husband Nov 2019 and gave birth July 2020. He was so lovely throughout my pregnancy but after one month I gave birth he changed totally towards me.
He talks to me anyhow, goes out 6pm in the evening and comes back 5am in the morning. Even when I will be sick it doesn’t move him, he gets angry when ever try to correct him of something that will affect us, he values his mother and his siblings more than the wife, to the extent that he insults me in front of everyone.
He doesn’t take any of my advice to the extent that his mother and siblings will know all his secrets and movement but me his wife, even our workers will insult me in front of him, he will not address them. I have a lot going on in my mind. I am so tired.
He bit me up the day I had a misunderstanding with him about coming home late, I involved his mother and siblings, but they did nothing about it. He also doesn’t feel free to make love to me. The last time he left and came back by 6am I decided to live the house with my child to cool my head in my sister’s house and after a week they brought me home to talk to him but guess what; my husband couldn’t admit that he was wrong rather he was demanding for an apology for living his house without telling him where I went to, which he later found out that same day from my sister.
So back to the day my sister and the husband brought us back home, my husband argued to the point he told me any day I live his house like that again that I should just remain there, if I like I should also go with our son that he doesn’t care.
So please what do I do
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I’m truly sorry to learn that you’re dealing with such an emotionally draining situation. It’s critical to put you and your child’s wellbeing first.
It is advisable to seek guidance from a professional counselor with knowledge on family issues. He/she can help you learn ways to cope with this overwhelming situation and also give you a sense of support as you work through ways to resolve this challenges with your partner.
You may also want to try communicating with your partner about how his actions towards you have been affecting you physically and emotionally. Try talking to your close family members or parents about the situation too; they may help talk to your partner.
If you continue to feel unsafe or threatened by your partner, you may want to consider separating from him. Remember you deserve to be with someone who loves, values and respects you.