So basically, I just turned 20 this year and two years back I was in a relationship with someone and before the relationship i was a virgin. While we were dating, I saw a-lot of red flags which I didn’t consider as red flags till we broke up last year October the breakup really affected me because I had invested a lot of emotions in the relationship. it affected to the extent I tried self-harm and cried for months. In summary I developed hatred for him and men in general and sometimes I feel my heart squeeze out of pain (I don’t know if that’s the word). It’s almost a year and i haven’t had any relationship again and i think I have PTSD.
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I want to apologise for the difficult and upsetting situation you went through in your previous relationship. It’s clear that this incident has had a significant impact on your mental and emotional health. Recognise and accept your feelings, seek out professional help and a support if you think you are experiencing symptoms of PTSD or struggling to move on.
It is important to focus on yourself right now; engage in selfcare activities or routine that you enjoy. Try to not isolate yourself, connect with friends and family as much as possible; knowing you are loved and supported is another way to help you heal. Whilst it is not healthy to rush into another relationship, it is also not fair to generalise your experience to all men hence the reason why you may need to speak with a counsellor who can provide you guidance and tools to help you heal and grow.
Focus on your self development, try to improve yourself in areas you know needs improvement as you go on this healing journey. The path to recovery is unique for each individual, but with the right support and resources, you can navigate through this difficult period and emerge stronger to live a healthier and more fulfilling life.