My boyfriend loves me so much and I started dating him for that sole reason even though I just cared for him but wasn’t sure I loved him, but with hopes that I’d fall in love when we start.
10 months down the line I’ve still not grown to love him, it’s just not coming, I lie about my emotions, me loving him back and all just to make him not feel like he’s the only one. When we make out and all, I most times zone out and can’t wait for it to be over.
I thought I could fake it till I make it (fall in love with him) but it’s just not there, and I don’t like how it makes me feel. I don’t want to lose him cos of fear of me not finding someone that would love me as much but at the same time I’m not at peace with myself and I’ve been forcing things that ought to come naturally and it’s tiring me out.
I’m not at peace with how I’m lying to him, and I know I can’t keep up for long cos the truth would always come out. I’m so anxious and scared about this, pls what do I do?
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It is clear that you are now dealing with an issue that is emotionally draining and needs an honest and understanding approach. Many people assume that their feelings will grow and deepen during the course of a relationship. However, it’s equally important to admit when this change doesn’t take happen and to treat both yourself and your partner with compassion.
Continuing to force the relationship might lead to a heavy emotional burden; it is best you both come to a resolution through honest and open conversation for both of your emotional and physical wellbeing. Understand that you may hurt his feelings if he learns about your true emotions for him, allow him to express himself.
Seek counselling if the situation becomes too overwhelming for you to deal with alone; it is important you get support in times like this. prioritize your selfcare and emotional wellbeing.
Ending a relationship can be a source of worry, particularly when there are strong emotions involved but maintaining honesty and authenticity is crucial for a healthy relationship. It is advisable to address these concerns openly rather than prolonging a relationship built on deceit. Ultimately, you both deserve to be in relationships where your emotions are genuine and mutually shared.