As a kid, I was very stubborn. Now I’m 37, I’ve grown, evolved, unmarried. My siblings are all married.
I lived with my married elder sister for 5 years until things got bad in the process.
My sister has traded my relationship with her for her husband. She speaks ill about me to her husband in a bid to broker the peace between them.
I have been nothing but nice to my sister. I work and I am financially comfortable, I buy her gift, birthday cakes, I give her money and I even extend it to her kids.
She doesn’t work despite her masters degree.
On the other hand, her husband chooses his family over my sister and his kids. Her husband is the sole provider.
What hurts me the most is that my sister uses my childhood stubbornness to not only broker the peace in her home but extends it to my parents and other siblings.
It feels like there is something that hurts her about me which I cannot figure out.
I have moved out of her house and now I’m battling with depression because my family seems to have rejected me.
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I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through such a difficult and emotionally challenging situation; it is obvious that you have made an attempt to keep a good relationship with your sister and her family, it appears that there are underlying problems that have prevented it.
Try to have an honest conversation with your sister about how are feeling, ask her if there are any underlying issues that need to be addressed. If you find that your relationship with your sister is causing harm to your emotional well-being, it might be beneficial to establish boundaries. These boundaries could involve reducing contact with her temporarily, until you start feeling better, or seeking support from other family members or friends who offer more positive support.
If you’re having trouble coping with your emotions and navigating your family dynamics, think about getting professional help from a therapist or counsellor who can provide you with the guidance and encouragement you need. Remember, taking care of yourself is essential in difficult times, you can protect your mental and emotional well-being while dealing with the behavior of your sister and her husband.