Please don’t judge me too hard. I just came out of an emotionally and financially abusive situationship last year. I was too inclined and emotionally attached “trying” to fix him; struggled for months but finally decided to let him go. As time went on someone else came into my life. He portrayed himself as a perfect man but deep down I knew he was too good to be true. Eventually I saw the real him.
I embraced him, showed him support whichever way I could. I’ll volunteer to be there for him, make plans, spend my resources, financially I did what I could, in mentally draining days I tried to be there for him. But during those times, he only repaired me with “I love you”. He never tried to go out of his way to do anything for me. He made me empty promises, didn’t make plans to see me…. nothing.
I made excuses for him, and my loved ones told me to get away from him, but I was attached.
I finally decided to call things off. I’m emotionally and mentally drained. I’ve cried multiple times. I need help to get over this.
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I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had to deal with such difficult relationship. It’s highly important that you recognise that you deserve to be in a relationship where both of you make beneficial contributions and is healthy and supportive.
Realising the need to leave a relationship like this that is physically and emotionally draining is a big decision. Give yourself some patience and time. It’s okay to feel sad when you lose an attachment for someone you once loved; because healing takes time.
If you need emotional support, ask your friends and relatives. You can get comfort and a sense of support by being surrounded by loved ones. If you’re having a hard time managing your emotions, don’t be afraid to get professional assistance. You deserve joy and a long-lasting happiness with someone you love.