Met him on fb, he had nothing. I had a rich man then who loved me and had proposed; but his mum hated my guts for being a black girl. I had to just let go of the relationship because I was always abused by his mother.
Though, the son was sweet to me, so I decided to stay with Mr.fb who had nothing but I did. I gave and gave but later had to confront him once or twice about women; that was the only thing I asked him not to gimme headache about that it’s something I couldn’t bear.
He kept apologising. Even when I travelled and came back; I saw him asking a girl in his chat when she was due to finish her period. I packed my stuff to go; he knelt down and begged so I stayed. He later proposed, we got pregnant and married yet his womanising continued. I cried, confronted and all but he then stopped apologising or being remorseful.
Now, he said I manipulated him with tears and crying to do my bidding( my bidding meaning to stop cheating? Cos I don’t get it? Shouldn’t he? Now am very depressed and everywhere I seek help am told to work with him or get out of it. I had to tell him cos am going crazy in pain of his betrayals and him making me a ridicule to his friends. Letting them know what’s happening in our life and all I say or do in private with him.
I brought my pride down to beg him to work with me cause i am super depressed and need help but his answer to me was ‘so if he admits he did it and says sorry will that change anything’?
Am completely down and I don’t want my kids to see me this way, they feel something is wrong but I am trying hard to pretend. By the way, in same city he has an office in form of an apartment he stays all week and only comes home weekends.
All in the name of work but that’s where he finds time to do all. what has broken us for the past 9years. Am crying as I write this cos of my pain n I wish I didn’t love him this much cos trully it hurts.
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You’ve obviously been through a lot, so you deserve to put your happiness and well-being first. Consider speaking to a therapist or counselor who can provide you with guidance and support in dealing with your emotions, depression, and relationship challenges.
Have a conversation with him, Clearly define your boundaries and expectations in the relationship. Let him know what behavior is unacceptable to you and what you need from him to rebuild trust.
Focus on your self-care and well-being. Think about how this relationship will affect your future, whether or not it is actually in your best interest and the best interest of your children to remain in this relationship.
Seek support from friends and family and remember that your well-being is of utmost importance, and you deserve to be in a relationship that brings you happiness and doesn’t cause you pain.