I have been dating a man for 11 years, we have a son together. I asked him many times the plans he has for us, if he is not getting married to me he should allow me to go on and marry the suitors I have coming .
He gets angry and most times threaten to kill me. I am tired and want to settle down and starty family. I am 37 years old ND he is 59 years. He wouldn’t allow me work , he loves to pay bills , he moved to a new house and I don’t know where he lives he has never taken me to his house but he knows where my son and I lives.
Any time I want is to discuss that he flares up or don’t give me any answer. I am tired and really wants to move on. The fear of lack of finances is there because he pays my bills.
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It’s best you prioritize your safety and that of your child. Try to talk to him calmly and respectfully; ask about his plans for you and the future of the relationship.
Also, for your own financial security and that of your child’s, it’s best if you startup a business or get a job. Communicate with you partner and express how you really feel. Speak with a counselor or close friends and family if you need more help on how to go about this situation.
If you don’t feel valued, respected or in a situation where you are being violated, abused or threatened; it’s best to leave such relationship and report this threat to the authorities for your safety.
You deserve to be loved, respected and treated with care.