Hi, I’m a lady in my early twenties married with a son who’s not up to a year. I just graduated from university this year as I’m currently unemployed.
I’ve been experiencing marital crises, series of arguments and domestic abuse. My husband is hot tempered and shouts at the slightest provocation and when I reply, it becomes
a huge fight, he tend to hit me with various items or abuses me emotionally and even separate me from my little boy.
He smokes inside our house where we have a little baby and I fear for the health of my boy. I really regret marrying him and this has affected our sexual life. Often times when I refuse him sex, it becomes a big issue. Now I’m considering divorce, I don’t want my child to grow up in an abusive home or learn that sort of behavior from his father. He provides as a husband and a father but then counts favors all the time.
We quarrel over the slightest issues and even fight every month.
I’ll need your advice, I’m really young I don’t know if there’s a remedy for this problem. What do you advise please?
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I’m sorry to hear that you’re in an awful and difficult position. The two most important things right now should be you and your child’s safety and well-being. Living in a safe and healthy environment is crucial, and domestic abuse is never acceptable. Confide in friends, family. Share your experiences with people you trust and let them know what you’re going through. They may offer emotional support and help you access finances or any resources you may need.
If you want a divorce, consult a lawyer who can give you legal guidance to help you understand how to go about it. Consider individual counseling for yourself and potentially couples counseling if both parties are willing. However, your safety is paramount, and counseling should not be pursued if it puts you at risk.
Also, create a safety plan you and your child in case of an emergency; have a backup plan for where you can go or hide. Remember you don’t have to go through this alone. Seek support from the family or the right professionals to know how to go about leaving an abusive marriage.