i and my bf started dating around 3years ago
one the very first day he said he wanted something serious
i agreed because yh it’s a green flag.
then after few months he started telling me words like i shouldn’t put my mind in the relationship that we should just continue with it and see where it goes
these words messed with me
gradually he started becoming deeply in love but these words still replay in my head
this time last year we were also in an issue that brought breaking up up
we sorted it and many more issues
but now he claim that the words of my mouth shows i’m not happy
whenever i try to talk about something he does that i don’t like he feels i’m trying to argue or fight..
i’m tired because the only person i talk to doesn’t want to listen
i love him so much even with his illness (he’s hiv positive from birth but he is at u=u stage right now he can’t transmit it)
i just want him to understand me
that’s all
i don’t want anything more
sò recently we have issue that we sorted before i left his place then after i left i started noticing that he is not giving me attention again
he is trying to ignore me
i called his attention he denied and lied to me
then he started picking my words up against me then eventually said he wants break and i asked him if he is done he said yes he is done
but he didn’t block me neither did he delete my number
i don’t know what to do thisis the man i planned my life with
Truthshare
It sounds like you’re going through a challenging time in your relationship. Communication is necessary and it’s important for both partners to understand each other’s feelings and concerns. Try expressing your thoughts calmly and openly to your him emphasizing your desire for understanding and connection.
If he’s unwilling to engage in a meaningful conversation, consider moving on. Seek support from friends, family and also a relationship counsellor to help navigate these emotions you are feeling and how to handle this situation.
A relationship is a source of support and happiness for both partners. So, you deserve to be loved respected and treated right. Take the time you need to reflect on your own needs and well-being.
Anonymous
If a guy says he is done, he has been done a long time ago. He was just waiting for a time to say it.
Let him go and heal. Speak to a counsellor and get help.
Build life again, get busy with acquiring knowledge and skill.
A better person will come.