My parents are on my neck, they tell me that my opinion is useless, and it is only theirs that stands, they control my friendships and my outings. My social life is a mess and I’m going slowly into depression. They want me to marry at a young age and forcefully frustrate me till I get married and not fulfill my dreams, I am presently living a life I do not want for myself. They tell me that I can only do a master’s program only if I marry. I’ve tried communicating with them, but all proved abortive. They tell me that it is not their business if I am not happy. And that they want the best for me.
This doesn’t seem like the best cause, I got a Job that I was interested in, and they forcefully made me to cancel the job so as to work in a place that pleases them. I tried everything I could, but they beat me mercilessly. I am 21 years old and all I keep hearing is you are useless until you get married. They say it is until I get married that I can become free; that all my opinions are useless. I am slowly hating this thing called marriage because of them. I’m so frustrated.
Please what should I do?
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I’m truly sorry to hear that you’re facing these sorts of challenging situation. It is highly important that you make your mental and emotional health first priority. It may help you feel better if you try getting professional assistance like counselling or therapy. A mental health specialist can offer direction, encouragement, and coping mechanisms to help you manage the tension and frustration you’re feeling.
it may seem difficult but try to establish clear boundaries with your parents. Communicate assertively but calmly about your need for independence and the pursuit of your own dreams. Express how their actions are affecting your mental health and well-being. Look into ways to become more financially independent, such renting an apartment or looking into a job and educational options that suit your interests.
Think about your long-term goals and aspirations. If you have dreams and ambitions, consider how you can work towards them despite the challenges you’re facing. If you find that you’re unable to make progress on your own, seeking help from professionals, reach out to friends, family members who may be able to provide emotional support. Sharing your feelings with someone you trust can be a crucial step in coping with the challenges you’re dealing with.