Got pregnant @ year 3 in the university, decided to keep the pregnancy & stay with the guy but he was abusive and later on in the relationship after 6 years of being together. I got to read on narcissist, does not believe such people exist or let me say I’m not aware of them. Since I became knowledgeable about such, I decided to get myself busy by starting a business which later fold up & running into debts.

I Had to go in search of job so as to pay up the debts.  I have been managing the work to care for myself because I’m not being taking care of financially& I decided to look for a better job to really upgrade myself because I’m in the relationship, but my career is not progressing at all. A graduate but earning a peanut because there’s no good connection to get a good job in Nigeria.

Another situation is my first child, there’s always a friction between the father and the child. The child is a stubborn type, and the father does not understand the method to train the child. He is always beating and abusive to him. I’m confused should I leave to another place with the child & leaving the other with him because he’s favorite or leave with both.

Just know that I’m not loved& cherished the way I’m meant to.

1 Comment
  • Truthshare
    9:54 AM, 15 February 2024

    It sounds like you’re going through a very challenging and complex situation, and it’s understandable that you’re feeling overwhelmed and confused. It’s important to prioritize your own well-being and safety, as well as that of your child. First of all, the fact that you describe your partner as abusive poses serious concerns about your relationship. Nobody should be in an abusive relationship, so it’s necessary to put the well-being of your kid and your own safety first. It’s very important to understand that your partner can be narcissistic, Try speaking with a counsellor who specialises in abusive relationships. To assist you in navigating your circumstances.

    It’s understandable that you’re feeling frustrated and overwhelmed. Starting a business and managing debt can be incredibly challenging, especially when you’re also trying to support yourself and your child. It’s commendable that you’re seeking better job opportunities to improve your financial stability. Networking can sometimes help in finding job opportunities. Also, consider furthering your education or training to enhance your skills and qualifications might also open up more opportunities for you.

    If your child’s father physically abuses the child, it raises concerns about the bond between your child and father. The safety and well-being of your child should always come first, no child should ever be the victim of abuse. It’s important to protect your child as best as you can, even if you need to keep the father from seeing the child. Ask help from close family member and trusted friends. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help and support when you need it.

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