By ivey11389
Am a lady, Harmony by name. Am 30yrs old but I look younger than my age. I have this colleague of mine that's a guy and he's 26yrs old. He likes me and wants to date me but at first, I told him no. We've had sex a couple of times and eact time we do I feel bad, not because I don't like him but sometimes, I feel he doesn't respect me, like the other time, I was hungry and don't have money to buy food and I know that he doesn't have money too, but still that night at my place, he had sex with me and he didn't bother to ask me about how I feel about it even if he noticed that I was frawning my face at him that period at work. So since I noticed that he wasn't asking but he wants to be having sex with me, I started looking out for myself. It wasn't easy, since the day I asked him if I was his sex mate and he said no, I still don't even know what to believe anymore. He's now being promoted as a manager at work. Before he came asking that I date him, he was already asking someone else's out at work but the girl told him that she have a boyfriend already. Now that we are having this issues, I started seeing changes, he doesn't give me attention at work, if he closes before me, he doesn't let me know that he's leaving already, and he started acting somehow towards that same girl. Later on, I walked UpTo him and told him that he's changed. He asked me how and I couldn't bring myself to tell him because, I don't want to accept the fact that am jealous, and what if he's dating me already, I still don't know, I don't want to say anything bad that will make me loose him. But he later realized that he hasn't been calling me in a while like he used to do. Again, I suspected that he's seeing someone else, (few days on, that same girl he wanted to date, stopped working at our office and is now working somewhere else) and it was that girl on my thaught, my thaught kept playing on me that what if they've planned that she should stop the work at our office and look for something else where to do so no one would question their relationship? I couldn't let such thought ring in my head, I was scared and I almost fell Ill. Lo and behold, he told me that he wants to tell me something. We met at my place, he was behaving weird, he wouldn't pet me whenever I threw tantrums and my suspicion grew, I asked him what he wanted to tell me, he didn't want to say it, I then asked him if he's playing with my emotions, and then he said it. He said, that period he was avoiding meat work and wasn't calling, he was with that girl, he asked her out and she accepted. So they are now dating. I didn't know what to respond, I just kept mute. He doesn't come to my house anymore, we now talk and work like strangers at work. Am so week, please I need help. What should I do...?
It is understandable to feel hurt and confused and I am sorry for the betrayal he has caused you and it is okay to feel angry at the turn of events. You deserve to be love respect and treated with respect. Your age shouldn't be a why anyone should play with your emotions or feelings. Prioritise yourself and your wellbeing too and ensure to put boundaries going forward to protect your emotions and mental wellbeing.
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Also if you feel overwhelmed by this whole situation, have you considered seeking support and therapy from a trained professional?
detaching from him very important, accept the turn of events and try not to beat yourself up about it too. Remember, you still work together, it's important to continue with a professional work relationship.
do you think I should talk to him about it..? because right now, I feel pained, he doesn't talk to me like a friend anymore. he doesn't even care about me anymore, at work, since he's one of my manager, he just gives orders and don't look at my face. after work, he just leave just like that. I feel used, so hurt and pained and I cannot help but cry. what should I do, do you think I should quit my job..?
Do you think talking to him would help give you clarity? what if the conversation doesn't go as you would have intended and it makes you feel worse than you already feel? Quitting your job won't make you feel better, don't you think it's best to ensure the boundaries between the two of you remains distant and professional?
okay I'll try and talk to him in away that I don't feel worse, I actually want something that would relieve me because I miss him being around when am home all by myself and would cry if I remember that he no has a girlfriend. for my job, I would wait and observed, if I can no longer heal in that environment, I'll look for another job and quit the present one. I think that's a great idea, what do you think?
I think that's a great idea too. Remember to protect your emotional and mental wellbeing through it all.
yes, and I pray God help me through it all. thank you
Do you think talking to him would help give you clarity? what if the conversation doesn't go as you would have intended and it makes you feel worse than you already feel? Quitting your job won't make you feel better, don't you think it's best to ensure the boundaries between the two of you remains distant and professional?
okay I'll try and talk to him in away that I don't feel worse, I actually want something that would relieve me because I miss him being around when am home all by myself and would cry if I remember that he no has a girlfriend. for my job, I would wait and observed, if I can no longer heal in that environment, I'll look for another job and quit the present one. I think that's a great idea, what do you think?
I think that's a great idea too. Remember to protect your emotional and mental wellbeing through it all.
yes, and I pray God help me through it all. thank you
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