Signup/Login

I’m a Single mother who left marraige because of so much cheating neglect and emotional abuse. I left because I was so unhappy and depressed. Treated so many infections and left thanking God I didn’t contact HIV. Focused on building myself and taking care of my daughter but I knew I still wanted to fall in love with someone right. 7years later which was around this time in 2021. I met someone online, we clicked, I fell in love with him and we kicked it off. Some months later I started noticing a lot of patterns that suggested he had someone else. Like not taking my calls at night, going off during weekends and becomes unreachable. Too many to mention. Telling very obvious lies. The first major fight we had, I almost broke it off, he obviously was ready to let me go. He was at fault but didn’t even make an effort. I eventually went to see him that was when he apologized and lied some more. I knew, but I loved him, ‘still do love him’ so I forgave him and we moved on. But these patterns didn’t stop. Need I add that we never spend quality time together, we never go out or do what couples do because there’s always one excuse or the other. I’m only known amongst his office and colleagues cos he claims he doesn’t have friends and I believed him. The only time we spend together is when he visits me at night and leaves early in the morning with work excuse. Sometimes when he visits, he finds it hard to take some calls and I notice how uncomfortable he gets. To cut this story short, for the first time he asked me to accompany him to a friends 5year wedding anniversary, I was so happy, I made sure I looked my best and I was so proud to have walked in there with him . I don’t want to go into the stories of the lady we met there and how he just kept contradicting himself with stories of how they knew each other even when I never noticed what transpired between them when we came in. He felt the need to talk about her on and on texting me how horrible she was and saying some stories that contradicted the previous. We enventually left there back to my house and then I was prepping to take my bath and just cozy up with him at night. I think he taught I was already in the bathroom cos i walked in on him talking to a lady on phone, the tv was on the highest volume and his phone was on speaker. This time I just waited to hear the conversation so he doesn’t accuse me of being paranoid and make me feel like I was overreacting or making things up. My boyfriend was on the phone with another woman talking to her exactly how he speaks to me. Making plans to see her the next morning. She was asking him when he would be back and his response was first thing in the morning. It was obvious he had probably lied to her where he went to, probably told her he was sleeping over at a friends cos he just kept telling her, I’m so tired I need to sleep, I had some alcohol. My heart finally broke when the good nights and the kisses and the I love you’s ended the call. I wanted to pretend but I couldn’t. My feet were shaking with my entire body. I mustered strength to ask him who he just spoke to and he blantantly said, it’s my kid sister. The events that followed after that is the worst. I’m so heartbroken.
The worst part now is that it’s been 1month now since this happened and I’m trying to move on. Missed my period and thought oh, it’s just stress, 1week gone, this is the second week and I decide to take a test today. I’m pregnant. I’m pregnant for him and I just feel like my whole world has finally ended. I don’t know what to do.

1 Comment
  • Anonymous
    7:29 AM, 13 December 2022

    Wow.the world has not finally ended its just a phase,whatbtou should be thinking of is what you want for yourself.is it him with his constant lies or to move on.
    Sometime people take risk .

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Privacy Settings
We use cookies to enhance your experience while using our website. If you are using our Services via a browser you can restrict, block or remove cookies through your web browser settings. We also use content and scripts from third parties that may use tracking technologies. You can selectively provide your consent below to allow such third party embeds. For complete information about the cookies we use, data we collect and how we process them, please check our Privacy Policy
Youtube
Consent to display content from Youtube
Vimeo
Consent to display content from Vimeo
Google Maps
Consent to display content from Google
Spotify
Consent to display content from Spotify
Sound Cloud
Consent to display content from Sound