I had a relationship with a lady we both love each other so much, we have been dating since university days but religion has been a barrier between us because am a Muslim and she’s a Christian but she keep telling me that her patient might not support the relationship but I do not take take things serious with her because I feel am not ready for marriage yet, after some time I noticed strange behavior in her, I later found out she cheated on me with a Christian guy she told me the truth and promise to quit the relationship the guy she apologized to me and made me realize she did it because of the pressure from her that parent, in order to satisfied my conscience I meet with her mom and told her am a Muslim her response to me wasn’t satisfactory but my girlfriend said she has made up her mind that she’s ready to be with me . We both love each other so dearly but have been feeling so hurt because I trusted her so much, my mind has been heavy with worries over her infidelity with the guy. Though she quit the relationship because of me but I still feel hurt that she cheated. Am so worried and confused
Anonymous
Hello Anon
Trust is earned overtime, it is absolutely fine to feel hurt that your trust was broken by someone dear to you. But importantly, trust can be earned again through come communication and commitment to rebuilding it.
You might consider having a conversation with your partner about your current feelings since your trust was broken. However, remember the conversation is aimed at restoring trust lost. Take time to find out ways she can earn your trust fully and discuss them with her.
I wish you all the best.