marriage of 23 years ago.
I always suffer beating, humiliation and verbal abuse from my husband. (Even in the presence of my children and his brother).
He told me several times to leave but I refused to leave because of my children.
For more bitterness, he said our first child is not his son which is not true, I’ve never known any other man since when I married him. I had four CS and he used his hand to collect his children in the general hospital one after the other while I was unconscious on bed because of CS pain. So, I don’t understand his statement. Please help me because of Christianity.
He is managing his elder brother hotel. Because I want intimacy between the two of us, whenever he wants to sleep overnight there I will follow him (even if it’s not convenient for me because of my work) so that we can be together.
He sells Nigeria used cars but he didn’t sell none of the four cars he has for almost a year and give excuse for any responsibility in the house because he couldn’t sell any of them.
The money he realised in his brother’s hotel he use to pay for the 4 million naira loan he collected to do car business which he doesn’t see buyer for.
I would carry the responsibility and cook for everybody.
The worst came up three weeks ago when he eventually sold one out of four cars he had and he decided to buy another one with the money he just collected. I gave opinion that he should try and sell more like 2 out of the remaining 3 before buying any other car again. That God has helped him to push one out.
The abusive statement he told me was SE O RO PE IYAWO LO JE SI MI NI ? A KAN JO NGBE LASAN NI.
I was hurt and confused.
We attend the same RCCG in Lagos and he is one of the ministers.
Please I need your advice ma, what should I do.
Truthshare
I am sorry you are dealing with an abusive husband who does not provide you financial security. Abuse is a tactic used by most men to exercise control over their partner.
You can talk to a family member, or a leader in your place of worship; someone your husband respects and you are sure can join you talk to him about the issues you are having, someone you think he would listen to. I would also advise you see a marriage counsellor; counselling can help resolve issues you don’t often talk about.
Concerning his abusive acts; create a safety plan for yourself in case of an emergency, document the abuse if you can; this can help you take legal actions against him if you consider leaving him (this can be a difficult decision to make considering how long you have been married and his position in the religious body) but remember, you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, and it’s not your fault that you’re experiencing abuse.