Pls I need advice.
I think my boyfriend is dating his bestie who happens to be my high school friend.
She put up my picture on my birthday sometime last year and he pleaded to know me according to her.I refused at first though but she insisted he was a good and responsible guy.
I got to know him and along the line we fell in love and started a relationship. He really is nice and supportive. We are a year in the relationship now,but during this pandemic we got closer bcos we got to see each other often.
I noticed they talk alot,he is always eager to talk with her even when I’m with him, he is so free with her,they claim to be best friends but she ones told me he asked her out but she refused that’s before he knew me.I think they have something.
We were talking on phone today and msgs kept coming on his phone I asked n he said it was msgs from his bestie. I practically have to force words from his mouth when we talk,he is the quiet type though.
Are my being jealous or should I be concerned?
If I had the slightest idea,he once asked her out, I won’t have given him a chance with me.she told me after we have started dating.
Anonymous
Being jealous is normal because you care about him.
Concerned also, you should be, because you said he once asked her out. So it means he had feelings for her and who knows how strong the feelings are now.
If I was in your shoe I will test to see if there is something to be worried about. I will calmly tell him that I’m not comfortable with how close they are and I want him to stop talking to her. Just to see what his reaction will be, not really to break their friendship. Depending on the kind of person he is, the way he responds to that, whether aggressively or too calmly, will give a clue if anything is happening 🤔
Anonymous
They is no bestie between boy and girl.even if they are gay.something must be happening. Please be very concerned.
Anonymous
Thanks for your responses. 🙏
I’ll talk to him about it and see his reactions. I really don’t want to be perceived as jealous or desperate 🤦♀️