Hi I am 26yrs, been in a relationship with my present bf for 5 yrs now. But something happened before we started dating.i use to smoke and drink due bad relationship I was in at age 18. One day I got to school and need to put up with someone before I get my please.then I call my present boyfriend,then we were just friends,and he welcomed me,I got there, met his brother, later that evening he ask me to follow him to his friend’s house,I was so tired and refused. I sleep and woke up at about 7pm that evening,then he had go out and I was left alone with his brother, we both started getting drinks and high, my friend didn’t return home that night, and me and the brother got into a sexual act. My morning my eye was cleared, I wasn’t happy but I remember I wasn’t forced to.i later find out that the brother was lying to another girl in the hostel about me, just to sleep with her too. I told my friend all that has happened. After awhile I spoke with him about the abusive relationship I was presently in, thing got worst for me in my relationship,and I decided to quit. I did. After wards me and my friend started dating. Then his brother started fight me and abusing me. Went as far as tell everyone I know lies about me. I spoke with my bf,that I can’t continue this relationship because I don’t think it will work out, but with a whole lot of love and support from him I am still believing it will work out. Both his nuclear and extended family that haven’t met me, see me as a bad girl, because of what the brother say about me. My pain and angry is that they all have children, would they treat their children this way. I have been speaking with the parent on phone for 5yrs, only last month,they say they can’t allow us be together. Still my bf isn’t letting me go. I am so confused and frustrated right now. On the other hand.y bf is the sweetest person I know, but when he’s not getting what he wants Right,he’s mood just change,he becomes more moody and quiet.i am really confused.please help me.
Anonymous
Good evening reading your story I realized that it has been a while you and your friend have been together and your name has been rubed on the mud by your boyfriends brother,good a thing that your boy friend don’t want to let you go but you have to know that if your relationship gets to marriage you have to live with the fact that you had something with his brother all the rest of your marriage if you must still be with your boyfriend then you have to do more in building of trust and staying away from alcohol and smoking so what happened before will not repeat itself.
Anonymous
Thanks alot. I have since then quit smoking and drinking. Although trust is one thing we both have for each other. Sometimes I am amazed at his level of understanding and trust for me. The only issue is that the brother had stained my name in front of those that even haven’t met me and it hurts so much.
Anonymous
First I need you to get a therapist 😊 I don’t want you to get emotionally down or get depressed , you two should meet his parent one in one and explain things to them and how everything happened and then let’s see it they will still be against your relationship …