I’m currently dating this guy,I love him sooo much and he loves me too but the problem is that he smokes weed(not an addict) and he didn’t tell me, finally when I found out and told him that I don’t like it and that am seriously allergic to it.
PS:firstly I don’t like it,I detest it totally then accompanied with my allergy for it ,he begged me and promised me that he would stop(for close to 2yrs now) and of which I tried helping him out I’m my own way cos he claims that he takes it because he’s going through a hard life n all then, later I found out that he’s still taking it. I was hurt and broken then on the other hard I felt for him, I kept motivating him that that phase of our life will pass(the hard time n was a financial problem)I kept calling, reaching out to him,inspiring praying for him as well and all,things have turn out to be very good for us now financially and otherwise.
So just this month(3 October)the boyfriend day celebration came up,so I decided to gift him for being a loving and most amazing boyfriend and I also added special gif,I call it “Drug free congratulatory gift”just to congratulate and let him know how much I appreciate him leaving that part,just to find out that he’s still smoking and had lied to me(I’ve not given him the gift though I just called him and was like “swt I got you something m so excited,bet you would love it).He posted it on his WhatsApp status where he was drinking (have no problem with him drinking and his weed just with him(he loves drinking so much so I wouldn’t try making stop things that make him happy,at least not all) so I confronted him about it,he reluctantly told me that he’s been taking it with friends but that he’s not an addict.All the smokers I’ve come across in my life including my brothers that are addicts now,started off like this,we kept complaining but they kept doing it claiming that they wouldn’t get addicted to it, now I don’t stay in my own family house when they’re around and I won’t want my relationship to be like that,a relationship where I can’t be comfortable around my man, not physically or mentally attached to him because he smell like weed (i’m really sensitive to it,I can pick up it’s smell from a very far distance and even hours after smoking it or even touching it )and if he comes close to me i will or kisses me I will start feeling sick,coughing, gasping for breathe, having severe catarrh and my whole body system disabilised, come on we have plans of spending the rest of our lives together(how can I possibly cope)
I had the thought of breaking up with him though we’ve come a long way and it’s just so hard for me,
When I think of leaving him the next thing in my mind is commiting suicide cos I can’t bear to leave him and if I do it will break him down terribly,I am so lost ,weak,tired of thinking and crying,I feel so broken n confused.
Please I really need advice on this I’m so depressed already😭
Peace Edochie
Oh dear, I believe a lot of people can relate to how you feel. I can relate to this personally, however at this point I’ll like to believe no one can tell you what to do, you’ll make that choice yourself. Only you knows what’s right and best for you in a situation like this. If you feel leaving is the best option, then you should. However, I believe no one is perfect, and if you find happiness in this person despite his imperfections. You can also stay and keep praying and hoping he stops. The choice is yours entirely to make dear.
Love and light❤