I’m married with two kids. My wife and I always have arguements time to time, on the average we argue like twice a week basically around things like misplaced items in the house, she talking back at me, raising her voice at small issues, not wanting to hear no because she feels she goes out of her to satisfy and make me happy and when it comes to her I don’t take her seriously or I am not deliberate about her own things.
She quit working as a micro finance bank loan officer due to the pregnancy of our first baby, and since then till now I’m been providing for things in the house, even with the token I earn. Tonight, I seem to be going crazy and I want to avoid violence at all cost.
As I type I have my headphones plugged in because my music turned to the highest because she’s been talking since like a crazy person.
I wanted to push her out of our flat and lock the gate but that seems violent. I think I need to see a counselor maybe to stay in this marriage or end it.
I’m not okay with the fact that we argue almost every day, and I want some sanity.
I have work and extended family things I need to sort and she’s making this immediate family where I’m supposed to get solace, she is making it complicated.
Anonymous
You both need to see a counsellor to learn coping mechanisms.
Anonymous
Marriage is about tolerance. Two wrongs can’t make a right. And as for the fact you’re the head of the house,you have to believe as such . I’m a Christian so what we believe in the bible is the husband should love their wife and the wife should summit. The only way a woman would summit total to man ,is when that man love and she can put her trust in him. First let’s leave the fact you’re married,and let’s talk about love ,do you really how to love if you don’t let me show you one. When your wife starts talking walk close to her and kiss her . Then leave the room where she is and meet with your kids and play with them . In another way look at the friends she is moving with and see if the problem is coming from there. You can’t just leave your wife and say you won’t marry her again , even if you do the heaven still holds you as one. My point is don’t use violet on her it make you less of a man , rather develop more love . Cause marriage is a institution where you keep learning .
I pray you don’t endure your marriage but enjoy in Jesus name amen