Good Morning,
I’ve been in a relationship for about 4 months now but I noticed I’ve been having fallouts with my partner a lot. When he offends me, I find it difficult to accept because I feel so hurt by it. Tonight, we had a fight. What he did wrong was that he kept to himself and kept on pouring out his anger on me and picking on me for no reason. He said all sort of terrible things to me.
He apologized and I told him I’ve heard but I remembered tonight and started crying, he said the reason why he did that is because he’s been facing a lot at work. I started crying tonight because I remembered and I felt hurt, he apologized and I did not listen. Then, he went to bed, I got angry and started saying all sort of terrible things to him too. I even cursed him and sent him home; he called my mum and I got more angry. He reported me to her and I said all sort of bad things. Now, I feel like this relationship is becoming so toxic even though I love him so much.
Truthshare
It’s normal to experience problems in your relationship. How you try to resolve the problem or communicate with your partner after an issue is what matters.
You and your partner should find a better way to communicate, understand and resolve your individual differences; as anger and continuous misunderstanding will only build strife between you two.
You both can seek counselling, talk to your parents or any mature adult you you can be accountable to; they can provide you guidance on what to do.
You both should be slow to anger; try to understand yourselves better. Every relationship goes through it’s ups and downs but with understanding, consistent effort and the willingness to work through any situation; you both can build a healthy and peaceful relationship with mutual love and respect.