My friend worked in an office where she had twin colleagues. Male twins. They were both really amazing people according to her but different nonetheless. She got attracted to the older twin and was really close the other too. But the younger twin said he didn’t wanna spoil things with a relationship so she zeroed her mind on the older twin. The younger twin was a bit complicated. In her words, she always felt the need to be there for him. Like protect him from the world, sorta. He had feelings for her but because of the whole conversation about not spoiling things, she started things with the older one but still maintained a very good relationship with the other. The younger one finds out she’s in a relationship with his twin and gets upset that she betrayed him. Even though it wasn’t entirely her fault, she feels super guilty and very horrible. They’ve both stopped communicating cos he said he wanted to move on but she misses what they had. What do you think I should say to console her?
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This can be a difficult and complicated situation to navigate, it’s important to approach it with care and sensitivity.
The younger twin may feel hurt, betrayed or even jealous that your friend is dating his brother; its important your friend tries to understand his perspective and validate his feelings even if she doesn’t agree with them.
You can tell your friend to try to reach out to the second twin so they can have an open and honest conversation about how they both feel. she could talk about how she values their friendship. She may also need to set boundaries between herself and the second twin to ensure that her boyfriend feels respected, and the relationship doesn’t cause tension between the two brothers.
Ultimately, she should know that relationships can be complicated and its ok if everyone is not on board with your choices. She may need to give him space to process his feelings and decide if he still wants to continue building a healthy friendship with your friend.