He hurt me really bad but I still love him and want him back even though he has moved on. We dated for 2 years and yes, I tried unloving him but I couldn’t. I’ve tried everything and it’s getting frustrating. If he can’t love me back then I need to move on… But how?
Anonymous
Its very okay to love someone and yet move on and its okay to miss someone and yet stay away.if you want to move on try and remember what he do to you and tell yourself that you deserve better.
Anonymous
The feelings of love, or even just a really deep “Like” with someone, don’t just disappear overnight. But that doesn’t mean you can’t work on it.
One thing you can do is Distract yourself so you’re literally too busy to even think about them.
You can also write it all out. Writing is absolutely key to getting rid of the things inside of your head. And if you want to empty yourself of certain thoughts, pouring them out onto paper can really help
Just remember, time heals everything.
Anonymous
Another key is to Remove the things in your life that remind you of them.
If you want to stop thinking about someone, you’re going to have to get rid of things that remind you of them. “Our thoughts are generated by triggers that remind us of an actual experience, individual, previous event,” (This can be a restaurant, a certain gym, clothes, gifts, etc.) “Regardless, being intentional about separating yourself from ongoing reminders is extremely vital with not thinking about someone.”
Keep in mind, we’re not saying you should avoid your favorite restaurant because you went with your ex once. But maybe it would be wise to your mental health if you avoided driving by your ex’s gym around the same time they go every day.